My ex is primarily a “victim” type abuser. He is always treated badly, he is always unjustifiably targeted and attacked. Everyone is out to get him, he believes has to “defend” himself against the world.
I am excited to share with you the 9 abuser types that Lundy Bancroft talks about in his book “Why Does He Do That? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men”. Lundy tells us that most abusers are a combination of 2 or more of these types.
The poor victim. Everyone has been unkind to him. He is misunderstood and misused in every area of life. Life has treated him unfairly and unkindly. He has lost relationships even though he worked the hardest at making it work. Life is so unfair to him that nothing is his fault. He is so underrated and underappreciated by everyone including his boss, his ex, his parents, his church and his neighbors. Nobody appreciates his true intelligence. He has a slough of sob stories about the many ways he has been mistreated and misunderstood. He preys on a woman’s natural sense of compassion. He…
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