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We see it in the news all the time. We see it in our friends, neighbors, family and communities. Someone is revealed as an abuser. Someone is exposed as hurting their closest “loved” ones. Someone is killed by an abuser. Someone is raped… and society says:
“But they are such a wonderful person! They are so thoughtful… successful… interesting… talented… kind…” He was a good father. She was a good mother. Until or except for. It’s as if the good things outweigh the horrific things. As if your experience with the abuser (criminal) outweighs the experience of the victim – outweighs the crime.
Bill Cosby is accused of sexual assault, and the world remembers Dr. Cliff Huxtable and refuses to believe Bill Cosby might be capable of such a crime. The victims are blamed – for not speaking up earlier, for not defending themselves.
My step-father was excused of sexual assaulting his step-daughter but his family and the community said “impossible, he’s such an upstanding member of society” … then it’s proven and he’s dead. Even an arrest and suicide did not change the community’s, or his family’s opinion on the matter.
What does it take? What will need to happen before we start taking domestic violence seriously? When will we begin to see it as the crime it truly is?
It’s time to take a stand. Where do you stand? How will you stand when it affects your life or loved ones?