Second Chances?

When I left my abusive marriage, it was strongly recommended I give him a second chance. Of course, over the course of our marriage, there were many second chances. Those chances, those attempts to save the marriage, the desperate pleas were unseen by others outside the relationship. I didn't share with people how things truly…Read more Second Chances?

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Saving Abusive Marriage?

This post is about what I think about saving, or even trying to save an abusive marriage. It's my opinion. My perspective. Make of it what you will. Can an abusive marriage be saved? I've heard it can happen. I think it's possible IF the following happen: The abuse is recognized in the beginning of…Read more Saving Abusive Marriage?

Inspired by Women

Today is International Women's Day and my best friend posed the question: "Who is your female hero?" It's a good question. Who do we admire? Who inspires us? How many women along our path have given us hope, encouragement and strength on our journey? I'll be honest... my initial response was "you". My best friend inspires…Read more Inspired by Women

Cognitive Dissonance

I came across a post recently at Give Her Wings regarding Cognitive Dissonance (please read it!) and it started me thinking. It struck home for me. I still wonder if there were things I could have done, things I could still do, to help him be a better man, to help him be a better father, to…Read more Cognitive Dissonance

Things My Abuser Taught Me

While I was with my abuser, he had a few (false!) lessons for me to learn. He successfully taught me some of them, and others he failed to teach me before I left him: I'm not valuable or important. I have nothing to say that is of interest or worth to others. I cannot take care of myself…Read more Things My Abuser Taught Me

It’s Not Women vs. Men

According to an article at Mint Press News, an incident of domestic violence occurs every 15 seconds against women in the United States. In comparison, the same article shares that an incident of domestic violence occurs every 37.8 seconds against men. (Let's not forget that part of both those statistics is same gender violence.) That's…Read more It’s Not Women vs. Men

He Said / She Said

One of the reasons it is difficult to break the silence is because of the lies an abuser spreads regarding their partner. While the campaign to malign your character begins long before the relationship ends, the abuser also continues it long afterwards and will work extra hard to convince professionals and your community that you…Read more He Said / She Said