I Don’t Have to be Alone

I'm great at building walls. I've become very good at keeping everybody at arms length. I feel very alone. I'm learning to include people in my life again. Abuse victims/survivors have many steps to healing. Sometimes those steps include trusting too easily, which leads to being hurt. Then, they swing the other way to not trust…Read more I Don’t Have to be Alone

Importance of Affirmation

I'm seeing a trend on social media where there a number of "quizzes" available to complete, based on your social media profile. You click on the link and it tells you what they think is amazing about you. You can test how "smart" you are, how beautiful, what people like about you, etc. There is a…Read more Importance of Affirmation

Abuse and Suicide

Abuse and suicide are extremely intertwined. There are many ways suicide appears in an abusive relationship, but here are a few I have identified: Threats from the abuser that they "can't live without you" -- implied (or stated) that they will kill themselves if you leave. My ex frequently threatened to commit suicide if I…Read more Abuse and Suicide

Re-Blog: Abusive Isolation

The number 1 tool of abusers is isolation. The reason why it is the most used form and usually one of the first forms of abuse is two-fold. First, isolation keeps her feeding off of him. He sets himself up to provide her with her basic needs, emotional needs and define what she should think […]…Read more Re-Blog: Abusive Isolation

The Subtlety of Abuse

Abuse starts quietly. Hidden. So subtle you miss it. A couple years ago, one of my best friends started dating a man who she thought was amazing. She was a few years out of her abusive marriage and this new man courted her diligently... except... he badmouthed her family, unfortunately for some legitimate reasons. Instead…Read more The Subtlety of Abuse

Mental Health: #BellLetsTalk

Today is Mental Health Awareness Day and Bell does an amazing job of getting the word out. So.. let's talk about it. Let's talk about mental health and why it's important to... well, talk ... about it. When people use the phrase "mental health", what exactly are they referring to? Anxiety Depression BiPolar Disorder Eating…Read more Mental Health: #BellLetsTalk