This post is about what I think about saving, or even trying to save an abusive marriage. It's my opinion. My perspective. Make of it what you will. Can an abusive marriage be saved? I've heard it can happen. I think it's possible IF the following happen: The abuse is recognized in the beginning of…Read more Saving Abusive Marriage?
The short answer is NO. To be clear, I'm emphatic, non-negotiable, and certain about my opinion on this matter. There is no such thing as "deserved" abuse. Now, there are relationships where the abuse victim finally stands up for themselves and strikes back -- that's called self-defense. And, there are relationships in which there appears…Read more Is Some Abuse Deserved?
This is not the normal post, it's not (specifically) about domestic violence, but I want to give one piece of advice to all parents out there --- Stop judging yourself so harshly. Stop setting your expectations so high that they are impossible to reach. Stop believing you have to be perfect at everything you attempt. Stop…Read more Just Stop It
So, there are awards out there for bloggers... Who knew? I write because I feel I have a message to share, and because it helps me too. Thanks for letting me know it's helping you too! I'm late in acknowledging this award - recovering from surgery is a weird process and I haven't done much…Read more One Lovely Blog Award
Today's post might be a bit of a rant, but it's what's on my mind, so I hope you bear with me... and I welcome courteous conversation if you want to comment. I talk a lot about the effects of abuse. I've talked about forgiveness, moving on and I've talked a bit about never going…Read more Consequences and Accountability
Self-esteem is a dangerous thing to lose. When our self-esteem is low, it affects every relationship we are in. It affects intimate partner relationships, friendships, child-parent relationships, business relationships ... and impacts our ability to build new relationships. When something happens, in life or in relationship, our self-esteem helps define how we react to it.…Read more Gradual Destruction
I hope you take the time to watch this video. It's a TED Talk from two people, a rapist and his victim, who have found healing and forgiveness together. It's not a journey many people could make, it's not a path most should even attempt, but it's a powerful message. It applies to sexual violence and domestic…Read more Powerful Words