I hope you take the time to watch this video. It's a TED Talk from two people, a rapist and his victim, who have found healing and forgiveness together. It's not a journey many people could make, it's not a path most should even attempt, but it's a powerful message. It applies to sexual violence and domestic…Read more Powerful Words
I don't have BPD, but this resonates with me. How often I walk around presenting a persona, an emotion that does not truly reflect how I am feeling. I'm tired of appearing okay just to make everyone else happy. http://wp.me/p7UbuE-8PG
I saw this meme on Facebook today and one of the responses was "70 times 7", which is a quote from Scripture (Matthew 18:22). This is one of those verses, taken by itself, which is a reason Christians stay in abusive relationships longer than non-Christians. I have, in the past, seen comments that say Narcissists…Read more Abusers do Apologize…. sort of
I'm great at building walls. I've become very good at keeping everybody at arms length. I feel very alone. I'm learning to include people in my life again. Abuse victims/survivors have many steps to healing. Sometimes those steps include trusting too easily, which leads to being hurt. Then, they swing the other way to not trust…Read more I Don’t Have to be Alone
We need to rest. We are commanded to rest. We neglect rest. Rest is not just getting 8-10 hours of sleep a night. Rest is taking time away from our normal routines, setting aside a significant amount of time and space to regroup for the coming challenges, to recover from past battles. I am reminded recently,…Read more The Importance of Rest
I read this post on Facebook today: My parents were apparently abusive to me when I was a kid. They made me do household jobs, go to school. gave me a curfew and smacked my backside when I did wrong. They put food on the table and we were expected to eat it- They put…Read more Don’t Call it Abuse… Unless it Is.
We don't always see the backhanded compliment. We don't always recognize the significance of an insult mixed with a compliment. It hurts. It harms. It is hard to imagine a compliment being abusive. After all, we expect that a compliment will make us feel really good about ourselves. We expect that a compliment is given in…Read more Re-Blog: Abusive Compliments